We all have moments of self-loathing. But, what if those moments are not just moments but they last much longer?
Accepting yourself is easier said than done. However, if you decide to make this journey, there are things which can help you. Stay with us to discover more about self-acceptance.
Control negative self-talk
On your path to self-acceptance, it is very important to objectively come to the conclusion what your virtues and weakness are. In order to do that, you need to control negative self-talk. Negative feelings about yourself which last for a long period of time cannot be objective. There are always positive things, but they are shrouded by negative thoughts and feelings. So, it is high time you learnt to control negative emotions. For example, if you feel depressed and disinterested, try asking yourself whether there is any specific situation which made you feel so sad. Digging out your worst memories is the path to accepting what had happened and to trying to get rid of negative energy. Despite how you are feeling, go out or talk to someone about your emotional state. Do whatever makes you happy at that moment in your life.
Nobody is perfect. This is the saying you should remind yourself of every day. Achieving the ideal goal is not sometimes possible. We are all human beings with flaws. If you do not achieve something you planned, it does not mean that you are worthless. You did your maximum and you still failed? Then, it was not up to you. Embrace your failures with the same strength you embrace the success. Only with accepting imperfection, you can learn something new and develop as a person. Learning to be better person every day is the key to self-acceptance and you can accomplish it if you learn to love all your imperfections.
Every time you accomplish something you have striven for, reward yourself. It does not matter how insignificant and small your reward is, it is a gift resulting from the success. When you reward yourself, you explicitly acknowledge all the good things you have done. You acknowledge your positive qualities which can be the motivational boost resulting in even greater achievements. The better result will finally lead you towards loving and accepting who you really are.
Make the list of both positive and negative things about yourself
The moment you make the list of your major qualities, you will feel happier and more satisfied with yourself. Make the list and repeat it out loud every single day to remind yourself and promote self-love. Even though it may be a bit artificial and weird to repeat all good things about yourself, you will start believing them which is your ultimate goal. You should make the list of your flaws as well. However, with each flaw, find the way to reflect on it. Try finding a good part of each and every flaw of yours. The final outcome of acknowledging your flaws is finding ways to learn from them to be a better person.
Learn to love your body
We talked about the psychological components of a person, but what about our physical self? In the same way you think you are not good enough for something, you can perpetuate this negative felling about your body, too. One of the Buddha’s quotes is “Your body is precious. It is our vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” In this case as well, your goal is to learn to love your imperfections and to treat them as a distinctive part of your uniqueness as a person. However, if you love yourself but you still want to change something, it is ok. If it is not the main cause of the lack of self-love but just the vehicle to feeling better about one part of your body, cosmetic surgery is a good option. For example, if you have the bump on your nose and removing it will make you one step closer towards loving yourself unconditionally, injectable rhinoplasty can give the good results.
Visit a therapist
Learning to love and accept yourself can be a struggle sometimes. In this case, do not hesitate to visit a professional therapist who will make everything much easier. During a session, you will focus on yourself completely, which can be the liberating experience.
To sum up, controlling negative self-talk and perfectionism and embracing all your imperfections and flaws is the least you can do in order to lead happy and fulfilling life you do deserve.